Years ago, when I lived in the big city, I had no desire to be in a committed relationship. So many beautiful girls everywhere so I chose to strictly date. And I had some hot dates too let me tell you!!
When I moved to a small town like 7 years ago I figured I would settle down, get married and start a family. I never got the chance though. Women either viewed me as a cigarette machine or wanted nothing to do with me. Women here just don't date! How people hook up I am not exactly sure? I am guessing they "hang out" or are "just friends" until they start fucking. This kind of syntax I consider dishonest, call a date a date!
So what is a date? My definition is two single people sharing a meal and entertainment. Sex is on the table but not necessary and intimacy is never owed. No commitment and free to see other people. Why would anybody want to this?! Here is some reasons:
1: Everybody is worth a few hours.
Somebody might not be a dreamboat or your ideal partner but surely it won't kill you to spend part of an evening with them. Talk to them a little and maybe there is more to them then you initially saw. Take me for example, there are multiple reasons why you don't want to be in a committed relationship with me. I'm old, fat, poor, pathetic, limp dicked, limp wristed, spooky as hell etc. etc. But a couple times a month I can scrape up enough cash for two to go out to eat and catch a movie. Could be fun? I got qualities too, I promise!!
2. Leverage
If you're a girl and your date takes you to Mickie D's, you can say "Gee, my other dates usually take me to nicer places than this..." If you are a guy and you try and touch her boobs but she shoots you down you can say "Gee, my other dates usually suck dick on the third date..." By letting people know they aren't the only person you are seeing you can drop the hint they better step up their game is they want to get serious.
3. Safety (for the ladies)
You may think "In this violence and rape obsessed culture, dating is too risky!" Actually, dating can be much safer! If someone gets creepy or weird, you got someone to call and take care of the situation. Even a warning that you are seeing someone else could shut down a creeper. Also you can go to social environments and meet and check out other people while someone has your back and will make sure you get home safe.
4. Networking
So maybe the whole relationship thing is never going to happen and you both know it. You both got friends and connections so you could always pass each other off to someone else.
5. Fun
Hey, fuck it! You got out of the house and did something! That's got to be worth something!
When I moved to a small town like 7 years ago I figured I would settle down, get married and start a family. I never got the chance though. Women either viewed me as a cigarette machine or wanted nothing to do with me. Women here just don't date! How people hook up I am not exactly sure? I am guessing they "hang out" or are "just friends" until they start fucking. This kind of syntax I consider dishonest, call a date a date!
So what is a date? My definition is two single people sharing a meal and entertainment. Sex is on the table but not necessary and intimacy is never owed. No commitment and free to see other people. Why would anybody want to this?! Here is some reasons:
1: Everybody is worth a few hours.
Somebody might not be a dreamboat or your ideal partner but surely it won't kill you to spend part of an evening with them. Talk to them a little and maybe there is more to them then you initially saw. Take me for example, there are multiple reasons why you don't want to be in a committed relationship with me. I'm old, fat, poor, pathetic, limp dicked, limp wristed, spooky as hell etc. etc. But a couple times a month I can scrape up enough cash for two to go out to eat and catch a movie. Could be fun? I got qualities too, I promise!!
2. Leverage
If you're a girl and your date takes you to Mickie D's, you can say "Gee, my other dates usually take me to nicer places than this..." If you are a guy and you try and touch her boobs but she shoots you down you can say "Gee, my other dates usually suck dick on the third date..." By letting people know they aren't the only person you are seeing you can drop the hint they better step up their game is they want to get serious.
3. Safety (for the ladies)
You may think "In this violence and rape obsessed culture, dating is too risky!" Actually, dating can be much safer! If someone gets creepy or weird, you got someone to call and take care of the situation. Even a warning that you are seeing someone else could shut down a creeper. Also you can go to social environments and meet and check out other people while someone has your back and will make sure you get home safe.
4. Networking
So maybe the whole relationship thing is never going to happen and you both know it. You both got friends and connections so you could always pass each other off to someone else.
5. Fun
Hey, fuck it! You got out of the house and did something! That's got to be worth something!
So in conclusion, maybe I would have been better off adapting to local customs? I feel the tradition of dating is worth fighting for though, so here is my manifesto! Have fun, but not TOO MUCH FUN!!!
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